Real Talk on Thai Dating – Insights from the Football Pub
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| Real Talk on Thai Dating |
คุณชอบแฟนแบบไหน? (What's your type?)
Notice: This is based on my own limited experience in local, budget-friendly bars and restaurants in Bangkok. I usually go there to watch Liverpool matches because the owner is a friend who gives me a great discount. It’s a place full of people cheering for my favorite team, and I’m often the only foreigner in the building.
Over the course of many Liverpool matches, I’ve spent my time doing more than just watching the game. I’ve been immersing myself in the local scene, chatting with everyone from the shop owners and staff to the regular customers.
After talking to about 50 people, I’ve gathered some fascinating insights into what Thai people actually look for in a partner. Here is what I learned from my "field research":
The Universal "Must-Haves"
Regardless of age or gender, there were four traits that almost everyone agreed on. To win a Thai heart, you generally need to be:
- Good-natured (นิสัยดี - Nisai Dee)
- Warm (อบอุ่น - Ob Un)
- Easy-going (เข้าใจง่าย - Khao Jai Ngai)
- Faithful (ไม่เจ้าชู้ - Mai Jao Choo, literally "not a playboy")
The Age Gap: Romance vs. Stability
I noticed a clear shift in priorities as women get older:
- The Younger Generation: Their preferences are heavily influenced by the "Asian Series" aesthetic (K-Dramas/C-Dramas). They often look for the "Tee" (ตี๋) look—men with East Asian features—who are handsome, romantic, and lean (ไม่ตัวใหญ่).
- Women 40+: For women who are older or have children, the focus shifts toward stability. Many admitted they no longer have a specific "type" (ไม่มีสเปค) and instead prioritize a partner who can be a solid provider (เลี้ยงดูได้).
Men’s Preferences: Personality & Physique
The men I spoke with valued someone understanding (เข้าใจง่าย) and attentive (เอาใจใส่). However, they were much more focused on physical traits than the women were.
An interesting takeaway: while many Thai women feel a lot of pressure to be thin, most of the men in my "unscientific" survey admitted they actually prefer a woman who is curvy or "chubby" (อวบๆ).
Insights from the LGBTQ+ Community
The members of the LGBTQ+ community I spoke with were often a bit more reserved or shy about sharing specific details. Most kept their answers simple and focused on character, stating that their main priority is simply finding someone who is a good person (นิสัยดี).
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